You SHOULD go there!

"Cape Breton Island Map"
(CC BY-SA 3.0) by "Canadian"
Source: Wikipedia

            I was recently reminded that I haven't taken my vacation for the year, and so am in the pleasant reality of getting to do some planning. It's fun living in a new region; there are lots of places I've not visited, so there is ample opportunity.

            For example, I've not been to Cape Breton - yet! I've shared this fact with some people. The responses have been consistent in the affirmative, but the way the message is conveyed has varied. The majority of answers have been encouraging: offering a positive perspective on the area, the fall colours, the music festivals, the time to visit, etc. I've gained a large number of pointers from the positive experiences that others have had: from food to accommodations to which way around the Cabot Trail one should drive. "I think you would really enjoy it" one review came, basing their opinion on a conversation of what I like to do while on holiday.

            In a few cases, when discussing my vacation plans, I've had the less inviting "You HAVE to do X" or "You SHOULD do Y". When querying why these statements are so prescriptive, the answers have one thing in common: it's what the speaker wants to do, without taking into consideration what my goals or preferences might be. This approach, while meaning well, can actually deter an interest in a place or event.

            I like to feel encouraged, inspired, invited, and supported when I'm considering heading somewhere new; with enthusiasm and positivity and ideas as to what may feed my soul. I like to know others  (whose opinions I trust) have made a similar journey and are so positive that they want to share it.

            Imagine if we treated church like this: inviting guests to come and see what it is that we do, because we have enjoyed it immensely. If we tell someone that they HAVE to come because it's what we want for them, they are likely not going to respond well. But if we can instead share why we choose to come to church and be part of Christian community, we might inspire them to come and see for themselves.

            So... let's consider the possibility of sharing a good review of church with our family and friends. Let's encourage people to try church based solely on the happy and fulfilling experiences we have had!